Hair Journey Update

So I recently started back my hair journey. I have not had a relaxer since December. I have also changed my hairdresser and went to get my hair clarified. She has gorgeous hair by the way. Shockingly, she said I should stop using my wave Nouveau Moisturizing Finishing Lotion because it is making my ends limp and dull. Honestly, I noticed the change but I could not figure the problem out. My hair was mushy to the touch. She told me that I need to start using Dax in the black or green colour. I was like what? Hair oil is bad on a hair journey. She said I should trust  her. Sigh...let's see what happens

Akera's Hair Journey

I am

Relaxed

What is your hair type?

4c

What is your current hair length?

started at NL but I am now SL

What is your hair goal length?

Arm Pit Length

My regimen has gotten very simple from when I just started:

1) I wash every 2 weeks with Aphogee Moisturizing Shampoo

2)Follow up with deep conditioning with  VO5 Strengthening Conditioner or any other cheap conditioners mixed with olive oil. I normally wear a plastic cap around the house or used my hooded dryer for 20 mins or so

3)After I wash that out, I use Creme of Nature Lemongrass & Rosemary Leave-in conditioner.

3) After that has dried I apply Jamaican Black Castor Oil to my scalp then I moisturize with Wave Nouveau Moisturizing Finishing Lotion and seal with olive oil. I moisturize and seal every other day

4) I wrap my hair or put it in 2 pigtails and sleep with my satin sleep cap


5) I do my Aphogee 2 step protein treatment only when I think my hair needs it and I try to stretch my relaxers to at least 10 wks

June 2, 2011 - The Journey starts!

October 7,2011

April 9, 2012

April 9, 2012 (2)

August 19,2012

November 18,2012

Temper Temper

Never apologize for what you feel. It's like saying sorry for being real. The trick is in knowing when to say what. We all feel the need to vent at some point but one has to be mindful of where this is done. Sometimes one may have ill feelings about someone at work or school and would really love to say what's burdening his/her mind but the setting is not ideal. It would be more appropriate to approach the individual outside that specific environment. One should also try to control emotions as a point can be brought across without you appearing obnoxious and feisty. You should never have to put up a facade around people. You can be yourself without being vulgar and repulsive. Easy does it...

Too proud are we?

Too often we don't realize what we have until it's gone. Too often we're too stubborn to say, 'Sorry, I was wrong.' Too often it seems we hurt the ones closest to our hearts, and we let the most foolish things tear us apart. It is a sad reality but pride has destroyed a lot of good relationships. I personally don't believe that there should be one submissive person in a union; both parties should be willing to submit to an extent. It is absolutely ridiculous to think that one sided submission will solve a relationship's problems. More than likely it will create a disgruntled partner whose rebellion may prove to be detrimental to the union. If a partner snobs or bullies another, he/she should apologize and not think the other inferior.  One should use every opportunity to express appreciation for his/her partner. It does not have to be a holiday, birthday etc; everyday should be special and pride should take a backseat when you are with your partner. Once you truly love and care for someone, submission should not be hard to do; it may save you from losing something and someone wonderful. 

Love's recovery...

Any boy or girl can tell you that he/she loves you but it takes a real man/woman to prove it. "I love you" is so easy to say but one should not use those words knowing they are not true. True love is unconditional, unrelenting and rewarding. Once it's given wholeheartedly, it will return to you in abundance. People sometimes ask why does love hurt so much but it doesn't. People hurt you not love. One of the worse things that you can do is be unfaithful to your partner and lie about it. You cannot allow him/her to learn the truth from someone else; that's a nail in your coffin! Coming clean shows that you acknowledge that you have made a mistake and want to be forgiven. Some say they lie to not hurt their partner but that doesn't help at all. It complicates things and does more harm than good.  If you have hurt your partner in anyway, you should make it your point of duty to make it up or try to make it up at all 'legal' cost. If you are not willing to fight to keep things together it simply means that you don't care and should simply move on. However, for the man/woman who wants to try and correct the wrong done, he/she has to work towards it. Also, you need to have patience in all of this. You need to allow time for healing which varies from person to person. You can't expect everything to return to normal within a month or even a year. A broken heart is fragile and takes time to be mended. Also, be open with your partner and do not do sneaky and secretive things that will awaken suspicion. No one is perfect but try your best to be honest, open and caring; put yourself in your partner's position..